Hi loves! Hope you’ve all had a great hump day! I loved reading all of your comments about when you feel like it’s truly summer. Now I’m even more antsy for this dreary weather to clear up and bring the sunshine back into my life J
Last night after posting, I headed over to one of my best friend from high school’s house. It was great to see her; as I’ve mentioned before, I enjoy hanging out with guys more than girls, just because so many women can be so catty, but this friend and I have always just clicked. We were hanging out in her kitchen, talking to her family, when her mom started talking about the diet she’s on and pulled out her protein shakes to show us. She began talking about how low calorie and filling they were, then all of a sudden interjected that “Oh, but I really shouldn’t be giving you tips on how to not eat.” I kind of smiled and told her in a nice tone that I do eat, but she just kind of brushed me off and said “Oh no you don’t.”
What? To give you a little background, I've never discussed food or my weight with this friend or her mother. I really like her mom, she’s always been incredibly kind and welcoming towards me, and even though she’s opinionated, I’ve never known her to make a statement that blunt. My doctor has told me I am at a healthy weight for my height considering my activity level, I get my period, I have tons of energy and never restrict myself. Yes, I am still thin, but I am not underweight or unhealthy. Clearly, this comment upset me. My friend backed me up, telling her mom that I do eat and I exercise a lot, but I could tell she didn’t believe me. I was kind of at a loss as to what to say; had it been one of my peers, I could have been much more direct, but this is my best friend’s mom, someone whom I need to treat with respect and remain on good terms with, especially when I’m in her home.
The more I thought about it, the more irritated it became. Why is it socially acceptable to tell someone they don’t eat enough, but not that they eat too much? Why is it even anyone’s business what I put in my mouth, for that matter? I eat, and I eat well, so for someone I see a few times a year to tell me that I don’t- it’s agitating. Furthermore, if she was truly concerned about my eating habits, why bring it up in such a flip manner? And finally, why tell me I’m too skinny while talking about how you want to lose weight yourself? It’s frustrating. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? What do you say when it’s someone you can’t be rude to?
Sorry for the rant, onto the eats!
Breakfast was a bowl of overnight oats with ¾ c rolled oats, 1 c coconut milk kefir, 1 T cocoa powder, a packet of Truvia, and sliced strawberries:
Lunch was a tomato and asparagus sammie on Ezekiel bread with Sabra, plus a bowl of Silk plain soy yogurt with coconut butter mixed in, topped with a chopped Fuji and lots of cinnamon:
For an afternoon snack, I had another one of the Kardea bars I was sent awhile back to review (you can check out my review of the cranberry almond flavor here). Miss GC reviewed the banana nut flavor in her most recent post, and it made me curious to try it as well!
As GC said, it was far more banana than nut, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing! One thing I really like about the bars is the texture- they’re far more chewy than crumbly, and this one had some kind of crisp in it too, which made it interesting. I loved the taste, but was a little turned off by the amount of sugar in it. Overall, it’s a good bar for a dessert or sweet snack!
I also snacked on some mixed nuts and dried fruit while reorganizing our pantry- hard not to do when you’re surrounded by the stuff J
For dinner, I decided to try my own take on Lizzy’s easy vegan spinach quiche! I mixed:
-one block silken firm tofu
-large sliced tomato
-10 stalks of chopped asparagus
-1/4 c nutritional yeast
-large spoonful of hummus
-drizzle of olive oil
-garlic powder and salt to taste
I then baked everything for about an hour at 375. The result:
-one block silken firm tofu
-large sliced tomato
-10 stalks of chopped asparagus
-1/4 c nutritional yeast
-large spoonful of hummus
-drizzle of olive oil
-garlic powder and salt to taste
I then baked everything for about an hour at 375. The result:
Deliciousness. This was super satisfying and definitely a good comfort food for a dreary day! I made my parents one as well, but used one block of tofu for the two of them and added mozzarella. They liked it too!
I also made a batch of Snackface’s whole-wheat biscuits, and topped mine with TJ’s almond butter. Carby heaven:
For dessert, I had a bowl of fresh strawberries and a bar of Endangered Species dark chocolate I was sent to review:
It’s no secret that I love dark chocolate, and I’ve always been pleased when I’ve bought Endangered Species on my own. I’d never tried this bar before, but it was definitely a winner- incredibly smooth and dark, but without too much bitterness. It’s vegan too, which can be hard to find in 70% bars. I also love their mission to sustain and protect endangered animals, which is a good reason to support this company instead of others. Absolutely something I’d buy!
I’ll leave you with a funny photo from the day: my cat Casper, perched on our hot tub cover, drinking rainwater. We’ve often suspected he’s not “all there” in the head, but we love him anyway! He’s a sweet guy J
How do you deal with comments about your weight or eating habits? What if they come from someone you can’t be rude towards- like a boss or other authority figure?
Do any of your pets have funny behaviors? I know there’s a lot of furry friends in blogland! I have three crazy cats- one if afraid of everything and spends most of her time in my mom’s closet, one is a people kitty who likes to sleep on my head like a hat, and the third drinks from the toilet and misses the litter box occasionally. I love how animals have personalities just like humans do!
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First of all your cat is soooo cute. I love red cats. I also have three cats - the girl who is kind of bitchy and also decided that my room is her room too - she often stands up on her hind legs pawing at things that aren't there; one who is terrified of everything and runs at the sound of footsteps (he tripped me down the stairs once and now whenever he sees me on the stairs he runs, i think the sound freaked him out); and one who's..um...special. Since we got them from a litter birthed by a stray, I call them crack-baby kitties to explain off their idiocy.
Second of all, that comment was entirely uncalled for and entirely rude. It's disturbing for people, espcially figures of authority, to comment in such a way on YOUR life when they have no idea what is going on in your head. Some people have no tact - and it almost seems like a malicious comment, especially when they refuse to believe the contrary at all. My mother once commented that I was looking really "thinnish" and it bugged the hell out of me, especially since I had been consciously eating healthy for several months already and really had been feeling the positive changes of my lifestyle. I got really upset but obviously it's my MOTHER so what could I say? Instead I decided i needed to make a conscious effort to visibly display what I do and how I do it because my mother just didn't buy it until very very recently (and she's still giving me shit about not eating dairy...ugh).
Aww, I'm so sorry that someone said that...let alone someone you have known for sometime. I feel like a lot of people go on diets and suddenly think they know everything about food and nutrition...when that's anything but the case. Every single person is different.
I would probably say something to the tune of - I thank you for your concern but the way you just spoke to me was out of line. ..I think, in general, a lot of people don't even realize they are saying something that could be taken as an offense...and to just be like - okay, hey, not cool. - could go a long way.
Awww your cats sound cute!! I have 2 cats and a dog. One of my cats is HUGE, not fat just big boned. It's HILARIOUS to see people's faces when they see him, he's bigger than my dog! But she's a pug and not completely all there... She's scared of my cats.
Your dinner sounds fabulous girl!!! Yum! I've never had that chocolate either but well, you can't really go wrong with chocolate!
Wow, I'm so sorry about that comment!!! I know how awful that must be! I get that all of the time too from people who don't know me. I kinda just laugh it off and tell them that I exercise a lot and I'm just naturally thin. It's crazy because no one will ever be completely happy with your body... you're either too skinny or "fat." We're all unique!!!
Love you girl!
that's frustrating. she sounds jealous. which is weird. but nobody truly concerned would bring it up so casually. i feel like i've been judged the other way...eating so healthy but NOT super thin. but that's why i love the quote "what other people think of me is none of my business." you know your healthy.
Sorry about the comment love, i know how annoying that can be, and feel free to let it all out on here! We are all here to listen and support you!!!!!!
Loving the oats!! Yummy combo girl!!!!!! Its like dessert for breakfast!!
THere is a little treat coming to your place tomorrow from me! Its coming from the site I ordered it off directly to you might be thrown off, but I did type a little greeting so make sure you read it!! love ya!! xoxo
So sorry about that situation! You TOTALLY eat..the proof is right here :) I hate when I turn certain foods down...say, a giant piece of cake at a staff meeting or something and people ask why and I explain either that I'm eating healthy or whatnot and I get comments like "pshh you're thin!" I hate when people don't realize that it's my decision to eat the way I do and I shouldn't have to explain it!! Rahhh.
Anyway, your oats look AMAZING!
Also.. My cat kneads pillows..which I'm sure all cats do but I swear its so creepy. She like purrs and then bites the pillow and my future inlaws insist its a sexual thing haha, so weird!!!
UGH. I cannot STAND when people make disparaging remarks about my eating habits. I've found that girls--and, in particular, grown-up mothers--get so competitive about eating, for some reason, and like to cut down my healthy behaviors. I've had countless mothers say I'm too thin or say things like, "Wow! They must not be giving you food in college!". Frankly, it's inappropriate and immature for adults to be making these comments. Whenever an adult says something like that to me, I try to make a joke of it and laugh it off, but it really bothers me and upsets me.
hey girl - i'm so sorry about her mom. i know they usually mean it from concern, but it does hurt! my dad used to do it all the time until one day i broke down and cried when he said it, and he realized how critical it was. sometimes, people just don't think!
the important thing is - no matter what, YOU know who you are.
my blood is boiling for you right now, girl, and it's taking every ounce of energy not to go give that mom a roundhouse kick to her face. I praise you for remaining so composed - I can't even imagine how difficult that was to hear. You are so unbelievably strong, girl. I'm in awe of you!!!!!!!!!! LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!!
i hate hate hate hate when people make comments about the way i eat. i eat healthy because i want to and i feel like people make comments bc theyre more insecure about the way they eat. but i usually just brush it off bc trying to defend myself is not even worth my time. as long as you know you're in a good place with yourself then that's what's important!
I'm sorry that you had to deal with such rude and out of line behavior from your friend's mom, love. I've had a lot of mean comments concerning my weight and eating habits directed my way, but it was never by someone I couldn't tell off; I can only imagine how frustrating it must be to hold it all inside. Maybe she said it out of spite or jealousy since she's trying to lose weight and you're looking so fine. It was still wrong of her, though, and it was nice of your friend to stick up for you.
I have one puppy at the moment, and she likes to talk to us and sleep on our feet. Whenever we say anything to her, she yips, growls, or barks in reply, and there've been several occasions where I've been sitting in my chair, wanting to get up, but couldn't do so because I would feel guilty for waking her.
Speaking of "catty women", I think your friends' mom fits the bill. She probably doesn't know about your former ED and is clearly jealous of your physique (so maybe it's a compliment in disguise?).
If I were you I would disregard it. You know that you're healthy and so do your readers :)
Oh wow. I cannot imagine. That is such an uncomfortable situation! You were AMAZING in that moment though!! I either would have nervously laughed or left. I'm not really sure!
I don't really receive the skinny comments anymore, but when I used to get them a lot, I'd get pissed. It's not like I'd go up to someone and say, "Oh wow! You're so overweight!" I'd NEVER do that! So why is it OK the other way around---you're totally right. And I have had people say things like, "Oh you never eat," but in actuality, I probably eat more than them. It's so weird. What is all this comparing?! It is NOT NECESSARY. I'm me. You're you. And IMMA DO ME.
That's all. LOVE YOU! xoxoxo
I agree with you 100% - everyone jumps on it if someone doesn't eat enough and has to comment, but no one can say anything if someone eats too much. As a really skinny girl, I get annoyed when people always tell me how skinny I am and make comments about it, because I wouldn't walk around commenting on people who weren't skinny, ya know? We are all built different and treat our bodies differently and it shouldn't be all one sided.
We all know your healthy and thats all that matters! xoxo
first from your comment to me... i LOVE palmer's cocoa butter. Cheap and does a body good. I have always used it, nothing compares for me. Even really $$ stuff.
I think that was a totally rude, underhanded, and nasty way to go about addressing something. If she was really concerned, she should have brougth it up in a differnt venue or way, but i think in these situations there is nothing you could say that will change her mind.
I would simply say, I am healhty, I am doing great, thanks for your concern and then deflect and move on. Don't tangle ass and try to argue, change minds, defend yourself. the minute you start defending, i.e. getting my period, etc etc, that implies that your lifestyle, food choices, etc needs defending, it doesnt. But some ppl won't understand anyway and no matter what you say have their minds made up. so dont bother explaining..and even if they are receptive to new info and hearing your story honestly and openly, that was not the time or place to do it.
HUGS!!!!!!!!!
Ugh - I would definitely be upset if I were in that situation, too. I get heckled all the time for my eating, but never in a way like you described. Honestly, I am shocked that anyone, especially your best friend's mom - would say something so seemingly heartless. I hate when people make "skinny" remarks to me - and they're always from larger people! I wouldn't tell them to lose weight when they complain it's too hot, so why should they tell me to gain some weight when I'm complaining that 30* is too cold?
Anyways - I think you handled it very well. Just remember how proud of yourself you are for your food choices, and I'm glad your friend defended you, too.
Speaking of which - your oats look absolutely heavenly. I bet your friend's mom would be jealous :P
Any person that will act LAME and call you out in an inappropriate way is NOT A FRIEND. Jealously and immaturity are immature....you are way too cool for that!
I am so sorry to hear that you were talked to that way. I have definitely have received a fair share of comments over the years and sometimes become so upset. I just turn quiet and shut down instead of laughing it off. People think that vegetarians don't eat that much when really we tend to eat more in volume, just more healthy food. It is really no ones place to make comments about not eating enough and a lot of times people who have been on diets don't know that they are just eating empty calories or protein shakes with a TON of artificial ingredients. My uncle who has been on the south beach diet often even though he isn't overweight always makes comments about how thin I am at holidays, etc. I just want to say back, yep, I have been this way my whole life. I think that sometimes jealousy definitely does play a part in it. I hope you aren't mulling over it too much today and happy you got to vent!
Oh and that chocolate is definitely one of my favorites!
I wouldn't even know how to react to that comment hun, I'm sorry you had to deal with that since it is an awkward situation with her being your bff's mom and all. I guess the best thing you can do is brush it off and just realize that she must truly not understand anything about having an eating disorder and that it is not something that should be joked about ever. And I agree, it is somewhat of a double standard that it's deemed taboo to talk about someone eating too much (esp if they are overweight) to their face however the reverse is definitely not true...
Wow...that's a really tough thing to hear! And it's a very insensitive thing to say! I've had people say things like that to me and I think it's partly a way to make themselves feel better about their own eating habits and partly a way to probe into you and find out if you really do have an ED. You handled it really well, though! Most people don't know anything about ED's and it's best to brush off comments like that in a polite way. I love that omelet idea!
That is SO rude. I think you did the right thing by just staying quiet and brushing it off, but YES, I would have been really irritated too. Just know that this woman is probably jealous of you or insecure about her own weight issues. Still...as a mom, she should know better.
Don't let it get you down!
Ugh! You handled that so WELL! I have been in that situation. In fact, my boss often tells me that I "look like a stick" and that I should "eat more" - I know she isn't saying it to be mean (she is overweight), so I usually just try to laugh it off, but I know how irritating that can be. Keep up the great attitude.
"Why is it socially acceptable to tell someone they don’t eat enough, but not that they eat too much? "
Oh MY GOODNESS! You are TOTALLY the same person as me! I get comments ALL the time, just because I'm skinny, people assume I don't eat. Oh its perfectly normal for the other kids to not eat breakfast and skip meals and blah blah but when the skinny girl (READ FIT!!!) eats an apple instead of chips with her lunch, shes WRONG. no, maybe SHE just wants to be healthy!!!
hoenstly, i cant STAND those people. They dont see me at my house, in my life. I eat, you eat, and you know what its not fair we dont get enough credit.
SHEESH!!
okay, my rants over now too. hoenstly girl, just forget about anyone who tries to bring you down. in the words of a wise woman (cough cough, my mom... cough cough) "there all just jealous". :)
xoxoLisa
p.s.- i cant believe your cat's name is Casper- THATS MY DOGS NAME!! (bichon- shes too cute!)
Wow, i can completely relate to how frustrating that is- I know she's your friend's mother and probably didn't mean harm, but the way she said it (and even argued it) seems just plain rude- especially in front of other people.
I would have politely brushed off the subject then went to her in private later to tell her how I felt about the situation and how hurtful it is to hear such comments like that- especially when you do indeed lead a healthy lifestyle and have overcome some unhealthy habits from the past since she seems like someone you do really care about, I think it's worth the effort to get her to understand where you're coming from.
Those biscuits with the almond butter- lookin' so satisfying!
I am so sorry that you were placed in that situation. I think I would have done just as your did... respond respectfully but be very firm when stating the truth. Seriously you eat & you exercise... its balance and yes that healthy balance does land you a 'hot thin body' usually. Sounds like she was just venting because of her diet she is on.
That is my type of lunch girl. Loving it!
I would have been SO angry in that situation! One of my friend's moms is always saying "oh you're so thin, let me fix you some food.." as if I don't eat at home! It makes me really uncomfortable. Sooo so frustrating. Whew, I could rant about that one for awhile too! Oh and hilarious pic of your cat, sometimes my dog "isn't all there" either =P
Yikes, what an off-putting comment from your friend's mom! All you can do is be confident that you're taking care of yourself, which you obviously are doing a great job at. The mom is surely jealous of how great you look and just felt threatened with you right there for comparison. It's a sick way that women's minds work in our society. Just know you're above it and move forward, I'd say! When I lost a bit of weight a couple years ago (nothing drastic, just some of my extra fluff), I had to deal with some uncomfortable comments, which in retrospect I can tell were caused by people feeling jealous or threatened by my changing - definitely their problem and not mine, though. I've had a fair amount of unhealthy thoughts toward food, but I'm in a good place now and I'm just taking care! I want to live to see 100. :)
I know what you mean about comments that people make regarding your weight. I have had similar situations- sometimes I just smile..and bite my tongue- but that is really hard.
But, if you can't bite your tonge (which I am not too good at- especially regarding weight) then I just say something like, well, I do exercise a LOT. That usually quiets them.
Sorry that happened though- I know it's annoying!!
Girl, when I read what her mom said...my mouth dropped open. That is SO, incredibly rude. I did a post like this a while ago (like my 20th post ever) and it was about how I was all excited to donate blood and someone had to interject and say "No, you're too skinny to give blood." I totally agree that it's not acceptable to look down upon someone's weight/eating habits whether they're on the heavier side, the thin side, ANY side...
As long as you're healthy and happy, don't let other people bring you down!
I recieved those Kardea bars too & I loved them :D
Well. You are a bigger person than I am for not blowing up at your friend's mom, or bursting out in tears. I don't know what my reaction would have been but it probably wouldn't have been to remain calm. All the power to ya girl! The endangered species looks good!
I'm sorry girl, that sounds like an awful situation. For me its more of people making off handed comments or giving me looks that I know are judgy...but you know you eat good and wholesome food, so you can't let them bring you down!
That quiche looks awesome, I will definitely be looking into that recipe!
I have dealt with negative/mean comments from a friends' mom before, too. Actually, the situation sounded SO much similar to mine--where she was talking about HER diet and yet coming down hard on you for your HEALTHY eating... definitely been there, heard that. I'm sorry you ahd to deal with it and I agree, it's definitely annoying and just downright rude to have to deal with that. :P
On another note, love the HEAlthy balanced dinner you made! Those are some great ingreds and I'm sure it made for a fantastic quiche!
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Sorry to hear your friend's mom made such a rude and inconsiderate comment. I have rude comments from others before (past and present). I have always had weird eating habits to most people, so I just have learned to shake it off, but there are times when those negative comments still stick...and hurt. But you are right, why do people have to judge by the way we look or eat for that matter. We all eat what we love and as long as we are happy and feel good, that is what matters.
oh and that quiche looks yummy!
Sorry about your experience. I think sometimes people accidentally turn off their filter and don't think about what they say!
I try to not take things personally- whether I am eating too much or too little. I do get upset though and just try to shrug it off and know that what I am doing is best for me.
I've been in the same situation where people close to me have made hurtful comments about my weight. I was never overweight but I lost about 15 pounds about three years ago after converting to a vegan diet (first for moral reasons but I quickly realized the many health benefits) and beginning a consistent exercise routine. I'm well within a healthy weight range and my doctor even called me "fantastically fit."
I was told to chalk it up as jealously and there may be some truth to that but the real reason for such hurtful remarks is ignorance -- ignorance about what is healthy and ignorance about how to treat people.
I have always told myself that one day I will stand up to those people and ask them why it is okay for them to criticize me for being what they think is too skinny but it would be socially unacceptable for me to say they are too fat. But when the time comes, I'll probably just bite my tongue because unlike them, I don't want to put someone in a position to feel bad about themselves. At least in that way, I'll feel like the bigger person.
I don't know you and I only recently began reading your blog (love humnut, by the way!) but I've been in the same place before. It hurts but my life is much happier and peaceful now and no one can take that from me, no matter what they say.
I am new here! Your food looks SO good! Now I'm hungry and its bed time lol :)
Hey love!! Yes the place we are going to dinner has amazing cheese and wine!!!!!!!! Im excited for their yummy food!! We are going saturday the 22nd, thats our 2 year anny!!
Awwwwwwww hun, I just sent you something small and that I thought you would find to be yummy!!! U are a great friend to me and I appreciate you always being so sweet!!! : )
I think that your friend's mom may have been expressing concern. I do not think she had a place to do so, considering she only sees you a few times a year. Maybe she was even a little jealous in a weird way. Here she is drinking protein powders to be thin and for you it's pretty effortless.
Easier said than done, but try not to pay her any mind. She doesn't know you, really, and her opinion doesn't matter.
Have a great day! Hopefully a negative comment free one.
that is such an awkward situation. plain and simple it was rude for your friends mom to say that to you, but what can you say? i mean, you COULD say something but im just not sure how much it would accomplish...and at this point, its better to just realize that she seems to be venting her own dietary frustrations inappropriately towards you. that said, keep your head up bc you look great, and as all your readers know, your eats are healthy and YUMMM!!
Oh Gabriela, I know exactly how you feel. I get so sick and tired about people commenting on what I do or do not eat. People seem to think that because I choose not to eat "crap" food, that I am depriving myself of it. They think I'm sad when they're eating chicken fried steak biscuits for breakfast (at work), and I am eating a bowl of oatmeal and peanut butter. It's like they feel sorry for me or something! LOL! Little do they know or realize that I am eating one of the most delicious breakfasts in the world! They just think I am crazy, and that's okay.
Another thing that I cannot stand is when someone wants me to try something that I do not want to try. "Try a bite of this cake," or, "taste one of these french fries." They think that I am being hard headed for not trying it. I just can't believe how much effort some people put into worrying about what others are eating!
One more thing...since I've already taken it this far... :) I hate it when people say, "I should be eating what you're eating." It's like they are trying to make me feel guilty for eating healthy when they choose not to. Next time, I think I'm going to smile and say, "Why don't you then?!"
Girl I totes forgot you lived in Philly! If I make it over there this summer for the art exhibit we are HANGIN OUT!!!
I'm sorry about that comment. Poo city! I probably would have done the same thing; shrugged it off and then stewed about it for a while. I think people are always going to comment on eating habits and what other people do - it's human nature! I try to treat it the same way I would treat someone who said "Oh my gawd, what is she wearing?!" I think to myself "That was rude, but I'm not gonna let it ruin my day. I am so much more than what I eat or what I wear and I know that."
Hope that helps! Have a great Thursday mama!
I'm so sorry you had to put up with such an obnoxious, insensitive comment! I try to remember that people who don't deal with EDs closely (such as my parents, and even they slip up) aren't going to be wary of their remarks, but still, food in general and such a comment don't seem okay to me at all. A mom of one of my friends used to facebook message me all the time about my weight and what I was eating, even though I, like you, really had never discussed or gave the go-ahead to be broaching the subject. Even after I had made it clear I wasn't comfortable discussing it, she continued, even asking my friends about me, so I just stopped answer her messages.
All my mom's cats are very spoiled. I love them, but waaay too pampered.
I'm sorry your friends mom said that to you. Totally not her place to comment, but I do agree that she's probably jealous that you can eat (nonetheless make!) such amazing food and she's stuck with protein shakes.
Take a few deep breaths, maybe slip into a yoga pose, and move forward.
Hopefully the rest of your day goes better!
Hi love!!!!!!
Sorry to hear about your friend's mom. Not the best way to say something if she really IS concerned. Some people don't know how to censor themselves! There are always gonna be people that are negative, opinionated, etc. But YOU know that you're healthy (and your blog def proves it!)...Maybe you should forward her a link to it so she can see for herself! LOL
Try to brush it off girl. You're beautiful and healthy. Fricken-A, you just ran a half marathon!!!! Not many un-healthy girls could pull that off ;)
Have a great day ma dear!!!!! XOXOXOXOX
it is so frustrating to not be able to stand up for yourself.
obviously, this woman is insecure about her own weight/appearance and is projecting it onto you whether she knows it or not, and that makes me feel kind of bad for her. as long as YOU know YOU are treating your body as best as you can, then you're golden!
tell everyone else to suck it (in your head, of course).
Ohhh goodness.. btw i'm hannah and i just started reading your blog a few days ago. ANYWAYS.
I had an ED about a year ago and since recovery have eaten only whole, healthy foods to rebuild my body. I don't eat anything hydrogenated, anything containing HFCS, saturated animal fat, red meat, or pork; and I only eat whole grains. Because of this, I often am declining food from people and when they ask why and I explain why, its like they get angry! I think people are a. jealous of natural body type and b. feeling guilt of their poor choices. My own father once said "She eats so healthy it makes you sick"... sorry Dad, because I'm healthy I won't end up with sicknesses like heart disease.
Sorry I just had my own little rant and we just met :]
But, the next time you see her, maybe give her the link to your page... That way she can see proof of your lifestyle and it can maybe encourage her in the process to live HEALTHFULLY to maintain the body she was made to have!
These things occur all the time, so just know there are a lot of us out there going through the same thing :]
-Hannah
You are totally NOT alone on this - as thin, active young women, we are definitely targeted by others about our appearances. Especially as a vegan/vegetarian, people feel that they have free license to either accuse us of not eating or ask us what our secret is. While some people may be genuinely concerned, I think most people don't get why it would be a sensitive subject or that it could actually call attention to something you're trying to move beyond. As a former fighter of an ED, I don't want to be reminded of it constantly or have it brought up by someone who has no idea what it actually is. So for the record, we eat LOTS of DELICIOUS food - plenty of fat, carbs, protein, and chocolate. And we care about our bodies, so we make sure our muscles and bones are strong and healthy. There should be no need to defend that!
hi gabriela! i see your comments all over the blog world and don't ask me why it has taken me so long to stop by your blog!! i'm excited to finally start reading. have a great day!! :) :)
wow I applaud you for not just walking out...what a thing to say! i am def one to speak my mind as well and i would have said something rght back. she really doesnt have a right to say anything to you when she does not even know that what she is saying is true! If she really is concerned she should not come out and say something like THAT!
anyways your overnight oats look delicious, def adding cocoa to mine next time! and the whole wheat biscuits!! YUMM
Your tomato & asparagus sandwich sounds delicious!
eats look greattt!
I can see how comments like those get frustrating!!! People just judge based on appearance, so because you are thin you are automatically not eating, that is crazy!!! And it is pretty ironic because you eat really healthy meals while your mom's friend is replacing her meals for shakes!!! Don't let it get to you girl, you do eat and you eat well!!!
Love yah!
When I read that about your cat, I automatically thought of you as Eloise! My dog, thelmalou, gets upset when she isn't the absolute centre of attention. :)
Im so sorry that her mother said that. That is a hard pill to swallow especially from some one that you can't defend yourself infront of. At least you know that your bloggie friends know youre healthy!
Have fantastic day!
Hi beautiful friend!!
thank u for the shout out! I LOVE quiche! :) Hummus will definitely be an add from now on!! eeek I don't like the comment your friend's mom made at all...clearly she is jealous, but how rude does she need to be! gosh, it would not sit well with me either! I have friends who always comment on how they can't believe how much I eat, and that when they look at me they doubt that I would ever eat...ummm why!?! I am thin too, but I've got muscle! it takes a lot of calories to fuel muscle! :)
I loveeee u for being the bigger person in the situation and not saying anything to the rude mother! Don't worry about it sweet chica, you fuel and love your body, you are healthy and that's all that matters!
I hope you have FUN weekend plans in store!
xoxo!
Wow, that's not cool at all. I totally know that feeling, though. It just gets really awkward and you feel like you need to defend yourself when it's really the other person that needs to do some explaining.
That really was uncalled for. I'm glad your friend stood up for you. I think when people are trying to lose weight, it's almost like they want to make themselves feel better by and so they may say things like that. Maybe it made her feel better to say that because she was insecure about her weight, but that still doesn't make it right.
We all see some of what you eat on the blog, and you DO eat well. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. When people say rude things like that, I usually just smile and politely contradict them or say something like "That's a personal matter." or something along those lines.
Don't let it bother you too much.
Your cat is adorable. I have two dogs that just act bizarre sometimes. One is the "dumb jock" : handsome, but really, really stupid, and the other is the "nerd": scrawny, but really, really smart. I do think it's funny how animals have their own personalities.
Keep on smiling and have a wonderful day!
Uh wow, I cannot believe your friend's mom said that to you. That was totally uncalled for and it was NOT her place to say that (not to mention the fact that it wasn't true!). I get that you wanted to show her respect, but I think there is a respectful way to defend yourself in this situation. And I think you definitely have a right to do so when someone makes such a rude personal comment.
I've sort of been in that situation with my mom. She's constantly making comments about my eating habits for being "too healthy". But I know she's been struggling with some body image issues lately, so I think her comments are because of insecurities. I'm sure that's the case with your friend's mom too.
Anyways, I hope you can brush it off and enjoy the rest of your day. :)
That sounds like such an uncomfortable situation. It sounds like you handled yourself well though! Try not to let it get to you.
Oh my gosh comments like that make me so mad. I hate it how people feel as if they have the right to comment on your body if you are for example too thin, when a lot of the time people would never dream of telling someone they are over weight. Why does there seem to be a double standard? That makes me so mad! Please dont let that meanie get you down, you are gorgeous and awesome and i bet she is just jealous! :)
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